I for one believe that more people could and should be foster parents and should adopt as led. So many people tell mie that they're amazed at what we do as foster parents, that they couldn't do it. I disagree. I believe most people could do it. We are not saints. We are regular, imperfect folks who have made the decision to be vulnerable to provide a temporary or permanent home to children who need one. We've opened our hearts and daily lives to be used, to be parents to kids who weren't placed in my womb through the traditional procreational activity of marriage but entered our home through a successful phone call and knock on the door. Even still, it takes a great deal of physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional strength in our relationship with Christ and our marriage to make this parenting happen, just as it does with "regular" parenting. And I'm fortunate to speak to both having 1 biological son, 8 foster kiddos - 1 pending adoption. But we're not amazing, just obedient.
And though this isn't the point of the article, it is the key point of my post today - obedience. We didn't seek out adoption to have this cute little baby in our homes. We also didn't seek out foster care purely out of a benevolent, obedient spirit. Truth-be-told, I strongly believe that if God spoke to us about foster care and adoption outside of fertility we'd be right along side all the folks who think we're "saints" - we wouldn't have been obedient we'd have filled our (smaller) home with biological kiddos - somewhere between 3 & 5 - and would have rejected the idea of being foster parents, if for no other reason than "we couldn't do that". So, we were dealt infertility, our choice to procreate was not granted/taken away, and we were led to the point of being foster parents hoping to adopt. It was only at that point that our hearts became (somewhat) obedient to be foster/adopt parents. Ultimately, our goal has always been to be great parents to the kids God gives us, a goal simultaneously selfish and obedient. Therefore, I'm not queen-super-cool-caring-benevolant-Christian trying to preach to you but instead would try to persuade you to consider how you can contribute to caring for the orphaned.
Obedience. Have you heard about the trendiness movement in Christian circles to be foster parents or adopt? I've heard about it on the periphery but haven't experienced it myself. I think both Penny & Russell Moore's perspectives are good, but I'd add another reason to not adopt.
You might not be called to.
Do you get it? Sometimes we get caught up in the trends and move with the crowd (sometimes known as our church) and we fail to pay attention to the calling each of us has, individually.
- I believe more people could and should foster/adopt but they choose not to because of the work it would entail and the fear of how it would impact their lives (or, the lives of their family members). In other words, it will be hard.
- All Christians are called to care for the orphans and widows.
- Not all Christians are called to adopt or be foster parents.
- Christians should follow the will of God as he has set out for each of his children.
You are called to care for orphans and widows. And there are plenty of them that need cared for. You may not be called to get licensed, but you are called to do something.